Date With Awkward Silences – Is Something Wrong?

People have made a habit of always doing something or always talking just to break the silence. A moment of silence is often regarded as something unproductive. Even more so, people usually think about other people that are silent that they are sad, depressed or weak or some sort of supposition that you aren’t intelligent enough in order to fill that silence with ‘something’. The modern man is rapidly going on a path of information abuse pathology.

You probably went on your date with these questions to ask a guy / girl, probably wanting to find the answer to every one of them. Don’t be tempted to fire those questions like you are on an interview just to fill up the silence, it will make your dating partner feel nervous.

In a relationship, or even on a date, people have a low tolerance to silence. Their calmness is disturbed by silence and this a counter intuitive observation. When the ‘awkward silence’ occurs, both partners will naturally feel a bit nervous, trying to think of something to say next . This is not necessarily a healthy attitude since it invites stress and unnecessary tension. You don’t have to talk about something all the time. Even if you do, only 7% of your message is transmitted through your words, the rest is transmitted by your voice and posture.

What long distance relationship advice should you give to someone that wants to improve the communication with their partner? Well, just like with any other relationship, they need to learn how to handle the moments of non-communication and use them to enhance the moments of communication. Every moment of silence has its purpose in the economy of events and silence should be considered as a healthy component of any interaction. Embrace these moments and don’t rush to say something just for the sake of it.

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